Yes. agreed. However, be careful about thinking you “should” open up. Sometimes we need to take care of ourselves and close. just do you best to do that consciously.

Yes. agreed. However, be careful about thinking you “should” open up. Sometimes we need to take care of ourselves and close. just do you best to do that consciously.

In reference to #2, I’d even go so far as to say that to be without EITHER your balls or your heart is UNattractive to women… certainly to women who want to go deep, be open, and have a partner able to handle/hold/meet her. Certainly to me

I have to, and WANT to, and LOVE practicing each of the above as well! I’d say that these are some of the most important keys to staying aware, staying open, BEING a partner. My “stuff” wants me to run and hide when I MOST want to stay open and loving and vulnerable. And I already know I screw up and get angry, etc… what I want is a man who can help me stay grounded and open during those times, who’ll forgive me when I mess up and come apologize, and who is totally juiced and challenged by doing his own work in that department.

Mmmmm…. I feel totally turned on and totally connected when I read this post, and imagine relating to a man like that! Woo!!!

Since doing this exercise with other men at our Revolutionary Men’s Training I have committed to living this way in my day to day life. I am living with an open heart more often and for longer periods of time and WOW! What a rush! Living with an open heart is scary…at times it can be a roller coaster ride and yet…it’s powerful! I see people’s energy shift right in front of me when I go from a closed heart to open in their presence. It’s almost as if I am looking in to an energetic mirror.

I also did this practice with a couple guys I am building a local men’s team with and they loved it!

I am not in any comitted relationship with a woman but I interact with many women and even notice a difference in the presence of women I don’t know…they feel my vibe..it’s like there is instant connection, even if I don’t say anything and we never talk.

Great blog. Love the 4 tips, especially numbers #2 & #4. Having either (or both) a mentor and an accountability partner in the form of another man is INCREDIBLY important. In fact, I believe that it’s crucial/essential for a man to be a truly authentic man, and open up the full, rich, superior life into which each of us has been born. I’ve got one (who’s both mentor AND accountability partner), and I’ve just had a the amazing, humbling and awesome responsibility of having a friend ask me to be HIS mentor and accountability partner. HUGE. Don’t miss out on this or blow this off as some “kumbaya” exercize, men. It’ll bless your life, and your relationships especially, in ways that you can’t even imagine or envision.

One thing I’d add to this list (of course! lol…): 5. DON’T BE “RIGHT”!!! JUST LISTEN! So often, when faced with disagreement, differing opinions and perspectives, or outright conflict, we just “know” that we’re RIGHT! DAMNED RIGHT! And, by God, we are NOT going to back down! We are going to grow some balls and stick to our guns and to our convictions, because, after all and as every man knows, THAT’S what being a MAN is all about (sic), isn’t it?!? Well, of course I’m being sarcastic, but “being right” is the biggest single factor or element to break down and failure in relationship with others – whether our spouses, our family, our friends, our business colleagues… Just do #1 (BREATHE) and then #5 (JUST LISTEN). It doesn’t mean you have to agree or adopt the other person’s perspective. But you’ll be amazed at how the other person’s perspective and attitude will change, when they “get” that you are really and truly, honestly and authentically listening, “being there” for them…

Just my 2 cents. Thanks Jay,

Scott