While I appreciate your comments, you have an edge you are not owning. Share something personal such as “I feel pissed” or “I am judgmental…” or something real, raw, that would help me connect in with you. Right now, you keep dropping bombs on my site with no personal ownership. Your tone feels passive aggressive right now. If you are going to play here, tighten it up.

I feel for you and what you have been through. Yes, you were a victim of abuse (past tense). And, no of course you didn't choose it. I state this clearly above. You were a victim of abuse then, but you are no longer a victim. Running your own biz and being a dad is testament to that. You can still choose to blame the perpetrators many years later. Even years later it is a fact that you were a victim and that that abuse was not your fault. Again, past tense. But i invite you to ask what blame NOW does for you?

We can't have traumatized people actually using their anger to draw boundaries and say “this far and no farther.” We can't have people demanding justice or holding abusers responsible if they're going to be unpleasant about it. It's important that victims “get over” their anger before they harsh the buzz of entitled, well-adjusted yuppies.

We'll even provide little zen practices to help! Then we can say to those with a heavy trauma load, “well, I gave you the method, it's easy, yes, yes, we're all victims, get the fuck over it, if you're still angry it's just because you choose to be.”

P.S.: Reading assignment–Melvin Lerner and the just world fallacy. Notice your own face in the reflection, boys.