The other day I sent out a call for feedback for men everywhere (Stay tuned…). My request was for one sentence from anyone and everyone. Interesting that several women completely disregarded the “one sentence” rule and just went for it.
Here is one poignant example from my friend Niro who wrote to us men exquisitely. She came up with her own introduction to it. I have not edited a thing and have received her permission to post it. I was deeply inspired upon reading her note and feel as though it may serve you. Thank you Niro!
Notice yourself as you read this. Are you skeptical? Do you allow her words to penetrate you? Do you contract because of you are afraid to let her in? Does the spiritual tone sound too much for you? Or are you grateful for a woman that shares her vulnerability with you? What would it feel like for a woman to actually speak to you in this manner?
If you are a man hungry for more in intimacy and relationship, let this be a love letter beckoning you to show up and go deeper.
Painting My Lover: Men – Women – Me – You – Who?
Crazy-ass long mad thing I suddenly found myself writing after I saw a posting by Jayson Gaddis of “Revolutionary Man” (What Is Your Constructive Feedback For MEN? – http://tinyurl.com/yh46lyj). This is waaaaay too long for what Jayson Gaddis is looking for. I mostly just found myself writing more about myself than men and so, this is just my note. And please know that this is MY letter. I am not speaking for other women. I am also not directing this at any one man. And sometimes I am guilty of what I complain about. I know it and am honest about it. Why did I really have all this gushing out of me? I have no idea. Maybe just because I am a woman. And sometimes, I just shamelessly gush.
————-Dear You, My Man,
You are Beloved. You are (more…)
Men and Women: This is your chance to give us men some honest feedback. Where do we need to improve? What do you want to see more of? Less of?
This is part one of a three-step project I’m cranking out. Don’t worry, this is not meant to just focus on the negative with men. Quite the contrary. However, we need a real-time assessment from everyday people like you. I want a baseline and some collective input from as many men and women as possible.
I only need one statement from you.
I realize I’m asking you to generalize, and it will be most helpful if you think of yourself (if you are a man) or the men in your lives. We men might actually benefit from it.
If you are down to help out, keep reading. (more…)
Want to know an man’s biggest fear?
Some might say “the unknown,” “being broke,” “not being loved,” or “not being in control.” While these top the list, there are a few fears much deeper, mostly unconscious, and more secret that most dudes just won’t admit they have or have had.
The three big fears that stem from outdated male conditioning are:
- Being perceived as gay
- Being perceived as too feminine
- A fear that your cock is not big enough, and therefore you are not adequate
If this is true that men fear these, then it is also true that these are the three areas to exploit and shame another man.
Men who are insecure in one or more of these areas will be highly susceptible to ridicule in these areas. However, he will do his best to hide it. The mask he will wear will be thick and seemingly impenetrable. Be honest. Ask yourself from boyhood until now if you have feared these. I have feared all of these at some point in my life.
Let’s take a quick look at all three. (more…)
If there was a car accident and you were the first one the scene, chances are you would respond and immediately lend yourself to the situation. Right? Most men would step up and serve in that moment without question, without hesitation.
How is it that some guys can really step up when it matters most, but in the day to day routine of life hold back so much? What will it take for you to “respond” to the call of your life?
What mistakes have you made that have you in a career that is luke warm? What are you doing about it?
If you still reading, you are at least aware that there is a problem. If you read my blog, you know there’s more out there.
Some of you are in the initial phase of career change. Some of you are just realizing there is a problem. And others of you are well along the path, having already taken some big risks toward the future, your life purpose, and what you want.
In this culture, work matters. Even though it is only what you do, for many men it becomes your (more…)