I wrote this piece for Elephant Journal in 2011. Here’s that link.
Relationship remains one of the biggest pain and pleasure points for us humans.
Instead of seeing relationship as a place where I can feel good and get my needs met by “other,” I am inspired to see my marriage (and relationships in general) as a path to my own freedom and wholeness.
When we change the context of relationship to include this view, it opens up a whole world where we can grow deeper individually and together.
Instead of seeing the pain and challenges of relationship as potential road-blocks, each “obstacle” becomes an opportunity to grow.
Seen in this light, relationship frees us from the habitual need to have our partners, family members, or co-workers “be a certain way” in order for us to feel safe and okay.
In the American Dream, the white picket fence, two-car garage, and marriage are ingredients to a