How Porn Impacts Real Intimacy and Real Relationships [free call]

How is/was your porn use impacting your real relationships?

I’m inspired to help men feel more turned on by their sexual partners. I’m inspired to support men finding even more pleasure out of real sex. In order to do so, we have to really take a look at our sexuality and how we show up sexually online and with real people.

So, as you begin 2013, consider a “no porn diet” with us and hundreds of other men. Join our free, live call on Jan 2, 2013 from 6-7pm MT:

How Porn Impacts Real Intimacy and Real Relationships 

This 1 hr free call will get you honest about how porn is helping or hurting your sex life.
I will co-lead this call with Decker Cunov, Authentic World founder and Integral Center wizard. 

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Are you starting to wonder if using porn is becoming a habit or addiction?
  • Do you consider how it’s impacting you connecting with real women in real time?
  • Do you sense that your porn use is helping or  (more…)

How to Help Boys Like Adam Lanza

So, how do we really help boys like Adam Lanza? Is it possible?

I believe so.

First, when massive events like this happen, I choose to open my heart and feel everything in me. It doesn’t take me long to drop in to deep rage and grief, then I quickly move to gratitude for what I have–that I can stroke my kids hair while lying next to him for a mid-day nap. That he’s right here, still breathing, alive, gentle, and unaware that kids his age were shot to death.

Within the Newtown tragedy, if we focus on gun control or safer schools, we spend precious (more…)

When Your Family of Origin Triggers You

photo by Paul Reckless, creative commons, flickr

photo by Paul Reckless, creative commons, flickr

Our family of origin is one of the most emotionally upsetting domains, and it doesn’t need to stay that way.

We can get to a place of ease and the holidays are a perfect time to “practice.” We can relax enough so that when all the triggers arise, we don’t bite. Or, when we do bite, because we probably will, we have resources, tools, and a practice to go to.

Our parents and siblings (like our kids), can help us become who we really are simply by triggering the shit out of us. Without knowing it, our families direct our attention to the places in ourselves that remain hurt, young, and fragmented.

If we are serious about getting the kind of relationship we want as adults, instead of saying fuck you to our family, we can say thank you to them for behaving in just the way they do, so that we can get to work on our unfinished business that is now activated.

Plus, it is most often our wounds with our family of origin that wreaks such havoc in our current intimate relationships. If that’s true, then our family is THE place to deal in order to have a more vibrant, less challenging intimate partnership in present time.

So, treat your holiday experience as a welcome opportunity to practice. It might just deepen your marriage.

Huge gratitude for my own family.

Oh, and if you have a resentment with one of your family members, try this.