Here’s an amazing video of Gabor Mate (done in 3 separate interviews with Amy Goodman) speaking to so many major societal issues including addiction, parenting, embodiment, attachment, ADD, etc. Powerful stuff.
This is a much watch for educators, healers, and parents. It’s 1 hour long and worth every moment.
His latest book is super helpful for anyone challenged with addiction or addictive behaviors. In the Realm Of Hungry Ghosts.
Gabor is a huge supporter of ayahuasca for addiction treatment but the Canadian government asked him to stop his work with ayahuasca and addiction. More on his (more…)
Some of these guys take pride in avoiding strife and emotional fights. Some do a good job making it appear as though they don’t get their feathers ruffled. They perceive their behavior as strong & reliable.
In certain situations like a work or a sporting environment, they show up as solid. But relationally most of these men remain very challenged. Internally they are not satisfied, nor fulfilled. Upon closer inspection these men realize they’ve numbed their emotional bandwidth. They are emotionally constipated and repressed. They have successfully muted their life force. They are somewhat numb to feeling their own bodies. They are in their heads most, if not all of the time. These guys have been conditioned out of their true power in exchange for (more…)
Self abandonment. One or both people have abandoned themselves in the relationship.
This leads to a subpar connection full of resentment and festering avoidance. And, some folks actually believe that by betraying themselves in relationship, the relationship will be okay, feel good, or be conflict free. Instead, each person slowly builds a quagmire of resentments internally. Meanwhile, the relationship begins to stagnate, fester, and die into mediocrity. Ouch.
The way out? Be honest with you. Own your co-dependent tendencies and learn to love that needy, fearful young one inside of you instead of asking your partner to. Come to understand all the ways you’ve left yourself behind. Then, commit to no longer doing that to you. Take on the practice of making it a higher priority to love yourself and be true to yourself, rather than “keeping the peace” in the relationship. Become okay with conflict and intensity in relationship. Say yes to your own triggers and stop participating in asking the other person to be different.
We seem to have a happiness obsession in this culture. People actually believe you can feel happy all the time which sets them up for a whole lot of suffering. I’ve yet to meet a human being who is in a constant state of happiness. I meet plenty of folks who act happy, but it’s just that, an act. Most of us are taught to act happy or upbeat giving preference to the socially acceptable emotions. We are taught to hide, not express, and bottle up unhappy emotions. Just look around here on FB. Most folks report only (more…)