Let’s say you are still angry and hurt around someone in your life. It can be very old or brand new pain. And, let’s say they are unwilling and have no interest in “working things out.” No problem. You don’t need the other person present or available at all in order to heal it. You have two main options: 1.) keep blaming them, hold a grudge, be resentful toward them, talk shit about them, and remain angry and hurt. Or, 2) you can learn how to heal this hurt without them, which is totally doable and liberating.
see also Conflict Avoidance