All this said, I get to set boundaries even in the non-dual realm where it is all sacred. I get to choose what I say yes to and where I put my energy.

Yes, it is a call to intimacy obstructed, i can get behind that. Let’s consider that porn and all that use it and sell it are worthy of love and acceptance as well. It certainly ain’t their fault, b/c I imagine no one taught them the utter profundity or sacredness of sexuality and their body parts. Once again, when we don’t teach folks, what more can we expect but a more narrow, limited version of sexuality?

My assertion is a such, Our closest ape family is the Bonobo(biological) and on the soul level we are pure erotic energy interacting with each other as we choose freely through space and time. Enter the human mind dissociated from both the primacy of the animal body and the limitlessness of the soul. Enter the mind with all of it condemnations, judgements, morals, etc. and the natural way we express our flow love and connection is suppressed, repressed and oppressed. Erotic energy whether you oppress or not will express itself. And porn is one of those expressions. One of the manifestations of our Innate and Intrinsic Erotic Fluidity through the filter of condemnation and repression.

My dear gentlemen, there are billions dollars spent on the Porn Industry. And I at the end of the day I want my brothers on this leading to know before they go into the battlefield within and without that people are aiming to connect to themselves, love and intimacy through this it is just that the tools they have been given are limited. The rise all the ways our sexuality is showing up is powerful EVERYTHING is rearing up to the surface to be loved. EVERYTHING.

I guess the perspective I am bringing is arm yourself with the connection to porn as a call to intimacy obstructed not the obstruction to intimacy. Make sense? I watched porn and experienced a golden age/golden rule intimacy at an early age from 14-22. She is still a very dear woman is my life as are the majority of my intimate partners. I am willing to accept that I am a rarity in this life and yet what is within me is within ALL OF MY FAMILY. And I will take this with me into non-physicality.

This could be a round about way of saying I don’t want to give up my porn. LMAO!!! And yet I know that in facing this issue within our hearts as human beings becoming bigger and I truly feel that the points I raise above must be considered as we unfold in this together. Love and Deep Thanks.

However, the interpretation of Deida’s work given here seems to be seriously distorted – and not of service to people considering delving into Deida’s work.

After having read 4 of his books and attending a 3-day workshop, I would say that his most important messages are definitely NOT about mind-blowing sex and and performance (for example, check out his book “Blue Truth”). That some people are arriving at his workshops with that as THEIR focus, though, is their issue. I could see how many of his teachings would shift that focus.

Instead, I think his teachings for men to look more deeply at their masculine essence is hugely important. And I don’t think his message is as simple as “be more masculine”. I would be more along the lines of “explore the ART of masculinity”. His teachings around the 3rd stage of masculinity are quite profound, much deeper than mere messages of sexual performance, they seem to me to be about deep self-actualization.

People who find Deida’s teachings rigid may want to take a look at whether they are the ones applying his teachings too rigidly. Because as I’ve heard Deida say many times, his teachings are not a dogma to be believed, they are something to experiment with. And that his teachings about the 3 stages are a teaching tool, not something to analyze your life through moment by moment.

Thanks to our mutual friend Angie for posting this – it is something I battled for years, and have done much reading on. You have summarized the issues well. Thanks!