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    Trying To Recreate the Honeymoon Period Could Be Hurting Your Relationship

Trying To Recreate the Honeymoon Period Could Be Hurting Your Relationship

By |July 13th, 2014|

When trying to “work on” a marriage, a lot of couples, or at least one individual in the couple, try to recreate the honeymoon period. But the honeymoon period you went through is over and cannot be recreated. Damn.

Why?

Because the honeymoon period, that most people call “falling in love,” is full of infatuation, fantasies, and

If Only My Partner Would…

By |July 10th, 2014|

This week I taught a very important webinar on one of the biggest relationship frustrations I see–wanting our partners to be different. And, these tools are critical to learn if you want to avoid hurting your relationship even more.

I answer questions like:

What if my partner and I don’t see eye to eye?
What if my partner and I are not aligned?
Can this relationship work if we

Another Reason You Need Your Opposite as a Mate

By |June 27th, 2014|

Let’s say one of us is very very emotional and dramatic, like, er…..the woman. And let’s say the other is emotionally shut down or indifferent, like um, say, the guy.

When the woman feels very emotional, the guy, due to his past upbringing that helped him hide his own emotions, will likely judge her as dramatic, emotional, moody, too intense, too much and he’ll pull away from her. Plus he may have had one parent (often mom) that was very emotional.  But what he’s really saying to

One Tip on How To De-escalate Relationship Conflict Quickly

By |June 6th, 2014|

Most of us never really learned conflict, right? Someone has to

Owning My Part Is The Way Out of Any Conflict

By |June 4th, 2014|

What makes intimacy tricky sometimes is that in your attempts to feel seen, heard, and known, (often what we most desire) you may take a risk and share who you are in a vulnerable moment. But instead of being received, you feel misunderstood, judged, and not really heard by me. Your share triggered me into my stuff and now I’m on the defensive, feeling blamed or made wrong for how you are feeling. Sometimes this can escalate into a long fight, or rift between us.

WTF just happened?

Well, I got triggered. My own past prevented me from

My Hero’s Journey Chapter 41

By |May 29th, 2014|

I’m preparing for another leg of my hero’s journey. This one has eluded me much of my life. This leg I’ve unconsciously put off for years. Or maybe not. Maybe I’ve just been gearing up for this one in my own funny way.

Because I’ve grown wiser I cornered myself and sealed the exits this time, so there’s no

I Want to Be A Dad Full Time AND I Want To Work Full Time

By |May 27th, 2014|

I feel the tension of the working parent.

Being an entrepreneur and a part time stay at home dad, I get to choose my schedule. It’s amazing. I’ve been very fortunate. I’m so grateful for my wife and the way we do it.

And recently, I am choosing to work more and parent less.

My son is impacted. He’s used to having me around more (He is also going through other normal developmental transitions). The behavior change in him is very subtle, but I see it every day. He’s acting out more, he’s more aggressive, more distant with me, and he’s easily hurt by me. He’s 5, so he doesn’t have a lot of adult words for

Staying Married For The Kids [video]

By |May 22nd, 2014|

A strongly held belief by some parents who are in a dead marriage:

“My kids will be better off if we stay together.”

Hmmm. Really? Do you know that for sure? Do you really know what’s best for your kids in terms of your relationship that has gone south?

We assume we know what’s best for our children all the time, and sometimes we