To sign up, click here. Hurry, you save $500 if you get your application in by November 1st at midnight.

The purpose of this training is 6 fold:

1. Initiation: That’s right. First and foremost this is an initiation into becoming the man you are capable of being through powerful personal development and psychology tools.
2. Develop Yourself: Help you commit more fully and more fearlessly to your own personal path/journey and take an honest look at what’s in the way.
3. Leadership: As the world around you gets more uncertain, this training is designed to give you tools to adapt, overcome and improvise. It will teach you how to respond (not react) to life’s challenges and help others do the same. You will be the man that takes people to higher ground in difficult times.
4. Community & Relationships: Provide a tribe (a community of men) where you can get feedback, challenge, support and accountability. We are much more powerful together than we are alone.
5. Service: Remind you of your innate ability to help others and give you practical tools to do so.
6. Celebrate, party and have a great time.

Click here for more details and to sign up!

What’s going on? Well, I just announced the second Revolutionary Man Leadership Training and I feel like i just jumped off a cliff to my demise. But, I’m still falling and I’m unclear as to whether the chute will open…..Hmmmm….

Whenever I put some new vision out there I am putting ME out there. Right now, I am expanding. Into what? Into the next version of me of course. I am well outside my comfort zone in this moment. I’m in unknown territory. The landscape is new and uncertain.

Think of it this way and see if you can relate.

I’m deep into the wilderness, alone. Backpack on, compass in hand and a rough map of the terrain. No trail in sight. I’m bushwhacking into the unknown.

After a while I begin to feel scared. I want to find the trail that everybody walks. I want to go back to the known path. I want the freakin’ map dammit! (the self doubt intensifies) Maybe I’ll just head for the parking lot, get in my car and bail on the whole plan. Yeah,… just head home, settle down with a pint of Ben and Jerry’s and a good movie. Who needs this adventure crap?

Ever feel this way?

But no, I can’t turn back now. It’s too late. I’m too bold. I believe in something far more important than my fear. There’s no need to run back to home, to the known world. It’s choiceless to turn back. (Reminds me of the Napoleon story of landing on enemy ground and burning the ships).

Who am I again? And why am I headed toward the unknown?

Oh yeah, I’m an adventurer. I’m a trailblazer. I’m an explorer and the open road is my home. Being at my edge, scared shitless, following my heart, and not knowing what’s next.

Damn, it feels good to be alive.

But I’m scared.

So what? Be with the fear. Remember, to be scared is to be human. No need to take it so seriously. Now, remember why I am here and what I believe in.

Right.

Oh yeah, the two steps:

1. Just open to my fear and to my self doubt. Acknowledge it, be with it, breathe and then…

2. Get my head back in the game. Back toward what matters. Back to MY vision.

What am I scared of? Failure of course. I’m scared to fail. What’s the worst thing that could happen? I fail–no one signs up for my training.  B.F.D. as my friend Dave used to say, so freakin’ what?

The point is I am out on a limb with a training I believe in. Something I’m so passionate about I’d die for it. That’s right. Win or lose, fail or succeed, the very act of putting my heart’s vision out there feels awesome!

I teach men all the time about fear. Once again in my life I am being asked to walk the talk. I accept. Time to re-commit.

I commit to following my heart, no matter the cost. And I commit to staying connected to my heart. I vow to live with an open heart even if it hurts. (Read more here) (This is Commitment 10 of the 10 Commitments).

What about you?

I hope this serves to remind you to “be with” your fear, burn the map, stand tall, trust yourself, say “YES” to the unknown, and keep your compass bearing toward your heart’s vision.

Go for it.

Art by Bryce Widom

The ten commitments of Manhood if practiced, will greatly increase the quality of your life.

Not only that, but you may find yourself more trustworthy as a man.

Maybe these can replace the ten commandments. Why are people following rules that someone wrote that long ago? WTF?

Let these be commitments you make in order to be a revolutionary man and more importantly, to be the kind of man you are capable of being.

I strongly recommend posting the commitments in a location where you can see them every day.

Make it a daily practice to review your commitments. Remember these are commitments you make to yourself, not to some higher power, God, or authority figure. If they don’t fit for you exactly, tweak them.

If you wish, bring these into your men’s group and use them as discussion topics and accountability measures.

Commitment 1. – Potential

I commit to reaching my potential and being the man I am capable of being. I commit to working on myself until I die. I am done with prioritizing comfort, safety, and security. No more hiding. I will get out of the bleachers and into the game. I am no longer willing to be a spectator to my own life.

Commitment 2 – Shadow

I commit to engaging in my shadow and blind spots. I commit to receiving ongoing feedback about whatever is unconscious in me and using practices that help bring it into the light. At the same time, I will also no longer “bury” my past and pretend I’m over it. If something from the past is lingering, I will address it.  I will “update” the files on myself and others.

Commitment 3. – Authority

Me first! I commit to being true to myself, first and foremost. I commit to trusting my own experience above all else and getting to know my inner authority. No one holds the authority on me except me.

Commitment 4 – Relationship

I commit to getting my relationship life handled. I commit to opening my heart, no matter the cost. This means being willing to set boundaries, not shying away from conflict, having the balls to be truthful with others, learning deeply about my sexuality. I commit to finding a mentor, doing therapy and/or coaching, participating in a men’s group, and whatever else it takes to have deep, meaningful relationships. I choose relationships that push me to grow.

Commitment 5 – Maturity

I commit to growing myself up. When someone else pisses me off or hurts me and I regress into acting like a young boy, I will reaffirm my commitment to learning how to be less reactive and developing more mastery.

Commitment 6. – Responsibility

I commit to taking full responsibility for my life. No one is responsible for my situation and my life except me. I commit to no more blaming and no more playing the victim I therefore commit t o knowing what I want and finding and living my purpose.

Commitment 7 – Finances

I commit to growing up financially. I will get my money shit together, which doesn’t mean focusing on how much (or little) I make, but rather on diligently uncovering the entirety of my relationship with money. I will learn how to be in conscious relationship to money matters. I will know the relationship between inner wealth and material wealth.

Commitment 8 – Service

I choose compassion over aggression. I commit to living a life of service. I will value the people around me and cultivate both the intention and capacity to help them in ways that matter to them. I seek to understand idiot compassion versus true compassion.

Commitment 9 – Social Justice

I commit to a life of social justice, non-violence, and equality. I commit to being and staying aware of my privilege and power in relationship to other men, women, and anyone of a different sexual orientation, race, culture, or ethnicity.

Commitment 10 – Gratitude

I commit to having fun, celebrating what is already “right” in my life and being grateful for what I have. I also will practice an attitude of gratitude for every challenge in my life and seek to embrace its wisdom.

Are there additional commitments you would add to your personal list? Share them with the other men here.