What if I told you that I used to be one of the most emotionally unavailable men out there?
What if I told you I was shut down?
What if I told you I did everything I could to avoid a fight and absolve myself of responsibility?
What if, when we struggled in a relationship, I’d blame you, and find faults with you, so as to not date you anymore, all so I could keep avoiding whatever the hell was going on on my side?
Would you still want to date me as the detached guy that I was?
And, you might even be dating, or married to, this guy, right?
Because, unconsciously, you are attracted to this type of guy (that’s another story).
And because without really realizing it, you are invested in your pattern of “helping” a struggling man.
Fortunately for me, and my wife, I’m no longer this guy.
And, every woman I dated prior to my wife tried pretty damn hard to help me, to crack the code of my heart, to open me, to get inside my head.