Comments for JaysonGaddis.com https://www.jaysongaddis.com High Quality Marriage Advice Fri, 20 Apr 2018 02:11:26 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.5 Comment on For guys that say to their girlfriends, “You deserve better than me.” by Cands https://www.jaysongaddis.com/for-guys-that-say-to-their-girlfriends-you-deserve-better-than-me/#comment-28792 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 02:11:26 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=4041#comment-28792 First of all, the fact that I’m even here reading this thread means I’m looking for relationship advice/clues on google as to why the fuck things have gone so pear shaped in my own life. I’ll own that. 100%. Because things have gone pear shaped. In fact, things have transformed from wanting to be with him to being with him because it’s what I’m comfortable with (and I speak for him too). Our relationship began as something hot, exciting and consistently energetic. There was never a moment that I felt bored with him. Then we started arguing over stupid, petty shit. And I found myself apologizing repeatedly, groveling for forgiveness and going out of my way to make up for my mistakes only for him to give me the silent treatment for 2-3 days and suddenly call me out of the blue asking if I wanted to have dinner as if the last 3 days wasn’t spent in silent, critical self-torture. But when he screwed up (which was equally as bad as my own, if not worse), I’d speak to him the next morning and he’d be defensive at first denying any accountability for his behavior and then eventually soften up and admit he screwed up and say to me “I feel bad enough as it is, you don’t need to make me feel worse. I’m human and I mess up.” Upon hearing that my defenses would soften if not deteriorate all together and I’d wholeheartedly tell him all is forgiven and we’d move on to have a great day. Ladies. Listen up and listen clearly. I’m a codependent person, I’m in a codependent relationship. All my relationships have been that way and I’ll admit it’s a mindset I follow because codependency is like an addictive habit to break but it started somewhere. It either started with you as a child and your dad leaving home. Or it started with your Mom and her never ending pursuit of happiness. Or maybe it started with your inexplicable quest to be recognized as the whizz kid in school. My point is it started somewhere and like an illness it manifest. I’m still in a “relationship” with the above mentioned example and that’s because I’m codependent. I can openly admit that I have serious issues with self-esteem and standing up to myself but the ironic (and sick) part of that is putting theory to the test and getting the hell out of dodge (I believe someday I will). My ever increasing lack of dedication to fix us is an indication that I’m almost okay. But back to the point, if a guy tells you that you deserve better then you should probably listen up. Yes, it’s his manipulative victim-blame bullshit, but there is a tiny part of him that knows it’s true even though he tries his best to snuff out that little voice. If the man you love says that, believe it…because he believes it. Except in reverse psychology. What he really means is “you don’t deserve me, i deserve better than you”. That is a clear show of doubt in your relationship and it’s lifespan. If he believes in you, in him – he would never say you deserve better. Instead he’d say “I deserve you, and you deserve me”. Maybe some day i’ll practice what I preach; until then find the happiness you deserve, even if it’s just with you.

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Comment on When Your Friend Cuts You Off by Vika Korotayeva https://www.jaysongaddis.com/when-your-friend-cuts-you-off/#comment-28787 Sun, 15 Apr 2018 21:27:56 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=7525#comment-28787 The worst shit about not hearing back is not even WHY the person has cut you off but WHETHER they’ve actually done it at all. Because, sometimes, silence means that the text was not even RECEIVED… So many people have just disappeared, that I can trust only my damn pillow… Am so exhausted and numb after it all, that I take “ages” to reply, because I don’t want to get too attached to someone again and to experience that pain again… Actually, my wounds keep bleeding, and I don’t know whether they’ll ever stop… For all the damned ghosters, I wish to know how it feels to not even know whether you’re actually ghosted on… But I don’t wish anyone pain… I wish people to know it gently: to imagine, to see a film, to read a book, to hear a story… If you never hear from me, it doesn’t mean I ghost, but rather that am not sure whether YOU don’t… Because I don’t want to be mistakenly taken as a chaser/stalker… I worry whether people receive my texts to them, but am afraid to just send them 2nd texts and even to open their timelines, because I don’t know who of them actually ghost… But, to those who don’t, I thus risk to seem indifferent or a ghoster myself… It sucks…

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Comment on The Truth About Monogamy, Divorce, And How To Build A Successful Marriage by BrookBascom https://www.jaysongaddis.com/the-truth-about-monogamy-divorce-and-how-to-build-a-successful-marriage/#comment-28786 Sat, 14 Apr 2018 21:18:59 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=5861#comment-28786 This is amazing. I have recently joined and still sifting through all courses and work. I want to share this with the man I am dating and having a difficult time with, as we figure out our relationship. Do you have anything (courses, etc.) for the men in our lives to participate?

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Comment on How To Resolve Conflict Without Talking by teresa https://www.jaysongaddis.com/resolve-conflict-without-talking/#comment-28785 Sat, 14 Apr 2018 17:36:41 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=5361#comment-28785 World has lotd of different people nut Dominate people are not gonna change they really need help God pray for people]]> There are people out here with Dominant ways these type of people dont even inow tgey self they have bold ways always wanna be the one talk and dont want the other person to talk God pray over dominant people.God pray over me and my situations.Dominate people wamt control.people like that are a challenge to the world The 🌎 World has lotd of different people nut Dominate people are not gonna change they really need help God pray for people

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Comment on The Shamanic View of Mental Illness by Dan https://www.jaysongaddis.com/the-shamanic-view-of-mental-illness/#comment-28779 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 02:55:35 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=2281#comment-28779 What we need is a society that is healthy. No, we can’t all run off to Africa, but that doesn’t mean pumping people with drugs and expecting them to limp on through the rat race as broken individuals, whilst completely denying the reality of the spiritual side of life, as an acceptable thing to do.

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Comment on 8 Signs You Are With An Emotionally Unavailable Man by Sam https://www.jaysongaddis.com/8-signs-you-are-with-an-emotionally-unavailable-man/#comment-28778 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 00:10:55 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=11069#comment-28778 What sort of things in ones childhood could trigger these behaviours. My partner of 6 years (on and off that bi monthly roller coaster) of push / pull.

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Comment on For guys that say to their girlfriends, “You deserve better than me.” by Michael https://www.jaysongaddis.com/for-guys-that-say-to-their-girlfriends-you-deserve-better-than-me/#comment-28774 Mon, 02 Apr 2018 22:57:07 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=4041#comment-28774 This is total bullshit.

I’m not in a relationship now and haven’t been in one for seven years because I honestly am NOT worth the trouble.

There really are men out there who honestly are NOT worth the effort. Why do people have such a hard time accepting something that I KNOW is true?

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Comment on The 3 Types Of Marriages by Kathy https://www.jaysongaddis.com/the-3-types-of-marriages/#comment-28773 Mon, 02 Apr 2018 16:10:12 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=6716#comment-28773 I’m absolutely blown away by this article. You managed, after a 27 years of being with my husband, to give me the clarity I never had before. I’m caring and my husband is careless. An careless he is. He could care less about growth…about anything really that’s not for him. How can a relationship work if one partner will never grow? I’ve struggled – and often felt horribly alone and unlovable- because I thought something was wrong with me. My insatiable need for learning and growth is too much for most people to understand. I can’t do stagnant and I get bored with those who want to continue living in a stagnant swamp. I thought I was “too judgmental” or my expectations were “too high”. Now, thanks to you, Jayson, I see now that I’m not “bad”. My question is, can the relationship survive?

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Comment on How To Resolve Conflict Without Talking by Alan Britt https://www.jaysongaddis.com/resolve-conflict-without-talking/#comment-28771 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 16:10:04 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=5361#comment-28771 Thank you, Jason, yet again, for your loving guidance. Your care and teaching continue to make a profound positive difference in the life I create for myself and my beloveds.

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Comment on How To Resolve Conflict Without Talking by RuthDiaz https://www.jaysongaddis.com/resolve-conflict-without-talking/#comment-28768 Wed, 28 Mar 2018 00:35:14 +0000 https://www.jaysongaddis.com/?p=5361#comment-28768 Amazing!

Dear Jayson
Thank you so much for this great school. It has been so helpful for me and my partner.

Best regards
Ruth

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