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I Want to Be A Dad Full Time AND I Want To Work Full Time

By |May 27th, 2014|

I feel the tension of the working parent.

Being an entrepreneur and a part time stay at home dad, I get to choose my schedule. It’s amazing. I’ve been very fortunate. I’m so grateful for my wife and the way we do it.

And recently, I am choosing to work more and parent less.

My son is impacted. He’s used to having me around more (He is also going through other normal developmental transitions). The behavior change in him is very subtle, but I see it every day. He’s acting out more, he’s more aggressive, more distant with me, and he’s easily hurt by me. He’s 5, so he doesn’t have a lot of adult words for

Staying Married For The Kids [video]

By |May 22nd, 2014|

A strongly held belief by some parents who are in a dead marriage:

“My kids will be better off if we stay together.”

Hmmm. Really? Do you know that for sure? Do you really know what’s best for your kids in terms of your relationship that has gone south?

We assume we know what’s best for our children all the time, and sometimes we

Stuck Couples vs Flourishing Couples

By |May 11th, 2014|

Couples that perpetually struggle see challenges as problems and want them to go away.

Couples that flourish have one thing in common: They face what is true, learn to see challenges as opportunities, and they choose to grow from all of it.


Parenting & Sleep Deprivation

By |May 8th, 2014|

After approximately 1800 days of chronic sleep deprivation/interruption, we have officially turned a corner. For almost a month now, these two kids are sleeping through the night. Finally. That was a serious beat down, a rite of passage, a big trial that broke me in half. It took a toll on me. I can’t believe I made it. And, now, 5 years (5!) later my wife and I are starting to sleep. I mean sleep. The kind of uninterrupted sleep that helps my body refuel and re-charge. The kind of sleep that feels nourishing, life giving. Ahhhhhh. Thank you kids! Fingers crossed

Relational Empathy Awareness and Literacy

By |May 5th, 2014|

Relational Empathy Awareness and Literacy (REAL): The knowledge and wisdom to see that relationships are a powerful tool pointing us to greater self-knowledge and self-mastery. REAL helps us to transform ourselves, our lives, and our connections with others. REAL is the ability to see and experience that when our partner triggers us, it is pointing to a wound inside of us that we have an opportunity to attend to if we want traction in the

Working Hard To Get Your Partner To Love You

By |April 25th, 2014|

You don’t need to work that hard to have someone choose you.

If you are working hard to get someone to love you, you are wasting valuable energy and resources internally. So feel free to keep repeating this pattern, as it may burn out in time.

At some point however, you’ll grow tired, resentful, and fed up and do something different.

If, on the other hand, you want to speed up the process, reel your attention away from your

4 Things to Do if Your Marriage is Stuck, Flat, or Drifting

By |April 16th, 2014|

I see it all the time:  Married couples who are withering away, married after many years but are simply pals, buddies, roommates. A long-term partnership gone stale. Newlyweds who get stuck in the weeds (wounds) after the honeymoon wears off and have no tools to move forward. New parents, who after a few years of marriage, begin to drift due to the demands of children. An affair, after kids, a stagnating connection, and the absence of sex. And, on and on…

It’s all normal and understandable.

But folks, it doesn’t have to stay like this. Marriage and parenting are designed to get at the deepest of

A 2-hour Talk on Conflict with Q and A

By |March 14th, 2014|

While the sound quality is lame in this video, the content is super helpful and chocked full of excellent information for