I’m a big fan of the Dalai Lama and the Buddhist teachings in general. This article in the New York Times is a helpful reminder to relate to the suffering around us and to remember that you are the savior you’ve been looking for.
Pico Iyer from the New York Times writes…
It’s only the clouds of short-sightedness or ignorance, the teachers from the Dalai Lama’s tradition suggest, that prevent us from seeing that our essential nature, whether we’re Buddhist or not, is blue sky.
Here’s an excerpt from the NY Times article…
“Dream — nothing!” is one of the many things I’ve heard the 14th Dalai Lama say to large audiences that seem to startle the unprepared. Just before I began an onstage conversation with him at New York Town’s Hall this spring, he told me, “If I had magical powers, I’d never need an operation!” and broke into guffaws as he thought of the three-hour gallbladder operation he’d been through last October, weeks after being in hospital for another ailment. For a Buddhist, after all, our power lies nowhere but ourselves.
We can’t change the world except insofar as we change the way we look at the world — and, in fact, any one of us can make that change, in any direction, at any moment. The point of life, in the view of the Dalai Lama, is happiness, and
If you are not on twitter, it can be a fun and exciting place to get information. I don’t even read the news anymore because I get the news I want from the people I know, like and trust on twitter.
Twitter is the conversation above the conversation and rather than dig through so many websites with so much content, I browse headlines composed in 140 characters or less and see what I want to read. And, you can target the kind of information you want by who you follow.
Twitter has had a big impact on the globe as evidenced in Iran recently.
If you are a man and you are looking for
Last year, my bro Tripp Lanier and I were interviewed by Enlighten Next magazine about modern day masculinity and where men are headed in the 21st century. The entire issue was an interesting conversation about constructing the new man.
WHAT IS ENLIGHTENMENT: In your online radio dialogues, both of you have tried to address issues facing men in the twenty-first century. You have suggested that the new ideal for men should be something that goes beyond both the “macho jerk” and the “New Age wimp.” So what would that look like? What’s the next step for men?
Tripp Lanier: That’s really the inquiry of our program. There isn’t a preset position. For me, it’s a guy who is being himself. That sounds overly simple, but I actually feel it in my body when I’m around certain men if they’re closed down, if they’re not in touch with their passion, their desire, or their purpose. So it’s someone who’s willing to be who they are, warts and all. It’s someone who isn’t shrinking from who they are.
Jayson Gaddis: I agree with that, but I would also include the idea that “I don’t know who I am,” because if that’s an authentic statement in the moment, then that guy is trustworthy. I’m already curious about that guy versus another guy who might say, “I got my shit together, and I do all this great stuff. I’m the man.” That sounds more like an ego trip. When we’re being ourselves, we’re not out to prove anything. We want to make our mark, but there’s no desperation involved. There’s an ease and simplicity.
WIE: What are the obstacles to authentic manhood in postmodern culture?
Read the rest of the article here.
In the coming months, Tripp and I will dive back into this discussion and see where we are one year later. Stay tuned.
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Following up on my last post about the purpose and value of a men’s group, in this post I’m covering a few key steps when starting a men’s group.
Step 1. Get clear on why you want to be a part of a men’s group. What is your intention? What are you hoping to get out of it? How do you see a group of guys serving and supporting you?
Step 2. Find other men who want to be in a group that both challenges and supports for mutual gain and mutual service.
Men ask me all the time where to find guys like themselves. Men also confess that
Since 1991 I have been in men-only groups in a variety of settings. In college I lived with 17 men for three years. I then worked for my fraternity for two years traveling the country facilitating conversation and leadership workshops with only men.
For the past eleven years I have led wilderness rite-of-passage trips with boys and men. I have even led leadership workshops at fraternity conventions with 1000+ men. I have spent thousands of hours with just men in a variety of settings.
But nothing quite compares to what happens when 8-12 guys sit in a circle and get real.
I have been in a men’s group for the past five years and these guys have witnessed me in
Being stuck and self-sabatoge has been a common report as of late from folks I work with. Stuck at work, stuck in life, stuck in not knowing what’s next, just plain stuck.
Being stuck doesn’t feel so hot. Nor does the self-sabotage game. So here are two things you can do right now to get out of the quicksand.