I wrote this for the Good Men Project recently. It generated over 100 comments within a week. Here’s the post in full…
In recent years there has been more and more articles on the state of white, heterosexual men and boys. These articles peaked in 2009-2010 after male unemployment spiked and women officially outpaced men in the workforce. The general question has been “what is going on with boys and men and why are they struggling so much?” (If you are a gay man or man of color, this post relates to you as well, but I imagine that you are facing much more than just this stuff).
(Check out these older posts for a good backstory on the subject: Start with a funny post–Ode to the White Whipped Male by Mark Morford of SFgate. Then read The End of Men, which essentially explores how the balance of power is shifting toward women. And a superb and confronting follow up by Ann Freidman in the American Prospect called “Not the End of Men” where she cites that gender stereotypes are responsible for the man crisis going on).
Is there truth to these articles? What is really going on with men now? Are we still suffering? And finally, if there is merit in the press about boys and men, what do we do about it?
A lot of people have weighed in on this subject. Here are a few perspectives followed up with my own.
This year, in a new book called the Demise of Guys author Phil Zimbardo claims that the reason boys and men are flailing so hard is due to arousal addiction, specifically the rampant overuse of video games and