The Vault
Blog
Years of writing on relationships, conflict, and what it means to be a present man.
Why Your Teenage Son Needs His Ass Kicked
August 13, 2012
A boy without initiation doesn’t become a man. He just becomes an older boy.
Why Some Men Objectify Women
June 27, 2012
He doesn’t see a woman. He sees a wound he never learned to name.
The Straightjacket of David Deida
October 1, 2010
Deida woke a lot of men up. But some of them never stopped performing his version of manhood.
Beating off to Porn is NOT a Strategy for Long Term Success? (Guest Post)
July 6, 2010
Porn isn’t the problem. It’s what you’re using it to avoid feeling.
How to Create Your Own Modern Day Rite-of-Passage (I’m personally going through a huge one)
May 20, 2010
Every man needs a death before he can be reborn. The question is whether you’ll choose the ordeal or wait for it to choose you.
Men And Rage
March 8, 2010
Your rage isn’t the problem. It’s what happens when no one ever taught you to use it.
Love Letter To Men From One Brave Woman (guest post)
February 18, 2010
She doesn’t want you perfect. She wants you present, honest, and unafraid to be seen.